My November New Year Ritual

Did you hear that last week I announced that I'm taking on a new name? If you missed it, the whole story is here! Thank you for your wonderfully kind responses-- you are the most big-hearted, generous, delightful humans. There was a line in that missive that rang a...

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So I changed my name at 41

​This beautiful photograph is taken by Jen Downer. Portland friends, HIRE HER IMMEDIATELY.   I like it when things happen effortlessly. When the stars align and the universe conspires and it all just flows with ease and grace.  But mostly it feels like I'm trying...

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It’s been a WEEK.

This beautiful photo of us the morning of Nick's surgery is by Daniella Zalcman. I'm writing to you from the waiting room of the hospital. Don't worry, everything is ok; everything is great, in fact. My beloved husband Nick is getting chest reconstruction journey,...

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A story from #BRAVEMAGIC

This beautiful photograph is by Anne Simone. Today we're going to take a break from all the terrible things happening in the world and I'm going to tell you a story about something wonderful that happened a few weeks ago. I was in California, attending a workshop led...

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Rage, power, and dignity

This beautiful photograph is by Anne Simone. Listen. I love you. I believe you. You are not crazy; you are sane in a crazy world. The women I love most in the world are grappling with their rage. Their rage is correct, justified, and healthy. But most of my clients...

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the choice that made everything else possible

This week I want to tell you about a choice I made in my 20s that made everything else in my life possible. It's a controversial choice. It was a difficult choice at the time. It might be difficult for some of you to read about. It's something for which, now, I have...

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For the haters

This week we had the surreal experience of seeing our family— on tv! for the first time! for two whole minutes! It was very thrilling.  ​ Let’s be honest, though, the first few seconds I forgot to watch the actual thing, because I was too busy speed-critiqueing my...

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Growing the fierce maternal in you

The other day I woke with a heavy feeling in my chest and sick dread in my belly.  That email.  It was sitting in my inbox, emanating doom. I’d seen it ping into my phone the night before when I’d checked the weather. At least I’d had the good sense to NOT open it...

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Even first responders get days off

So! Last week I told a very dignified story about a river, and sharp rocks, and the moral was BUY THE DAMN RIVER SHOES and you can read that right here if you missed it. I heard back from so many of you who wrote me saying, "Ohmygoddess!!! This is SO ME!!!!" (and most...

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My river shoe downfall

We survived camping!! And 18 hours in the car!!! And then a 24-hour turnaround that involved 12+ loads of laundry so that five out of our seven could head off to their next adventure! So about that river. There it is above, sparkling and cold, home to friendly snakes...

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Hey there, I'm Katherine.

I've got five kids, I'm a queer feminist, and I just might be the only life coach in the world who doesn’t believe in the Law of Attraction.

I write things for women with big, gorgeous, COMPLICATED lives.

I help women become epic fucking badasses... but I still retain my right to cry at every diaper commercial ever made. 


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