Today’s missive is going to be different than usual, because there are some big and intense winds blowing through the lives of my friends and clients this week.

I’m not sure if it’s astrological, or global warming, or bad clams, but some very big things are going down for people.  So let’s talk about how to deal with life when it’s like that.

Here’s the thing.  I have some really great tips about how to live an awesome life.

I know lots of coaches who also have lots of awesome tips.

They truly can help: you can make better decisions, keep your home clean, dress like a badass, lose weight, save money, love your own skin, and build a successful business.

​But none of those things can save you from the slings and arrows of fate.

No matter what, nothing can exempt you from this messy act of being human. 

You will make mistakes.
You will cry.
You will rage.
You will be helpless.
You will feel lonely.
You will be betrayed.
You will be disappointed.
You will hurt.

​Here’s what I didn’t understand for the longest time– that’s okay. 

It’s okay that you will make mistakes.  They will make you wise.
It’s okay that you will cry.  The tears will wash you clean, if you let them.
It’s okay that you are enraged.  It will show you what you need to do.
It’s okay that you will feel helpless.  It will make you compassionate.
It’s okay that you will be lonely.  It will nudge you toward your true people.
​It’s okay that you will be betrayed.  You will learn the truths you didn’t want to know.
It’s okay that you will be disappointed.  You will yearn for something better.

Am I saying that it’s okay that these things happen to you?

No.

I am saying that you can be okay in spite of these things. 

You can let them turn you hard.  You can let them steal your dignity.  You can grovel for scraps of pity because you’ve given up on your own power.

Or, you can get big enough to contain all of it.  You can declare yourself the hero of your own epic story, and walk forward just like a hero would do.

You can be brave.

You can let your hurts teach you.  ​And when you’ve learned everything there is to learn from hurt, you can turn to joy.

The joy is your birthright.  And the hurts are nudging you toward who you decide you’re going to be next.

So choose healing.  Choose moving on.  Choose cutting old cords, shedding old patterns, and declaring what you’re ready for next.

This messy life can reveal an unbelievably brilliant beauty in you.

Accept nothing less.

much love, 
Anna